I’m overwhelmed with anger and sadness that my daughter has chosen to leave her home, our home, to go live with her father. A man who has consistently shown that he doesn’t truly care for her. A man who always puts himself first. A man who stood by while his wife verbally abused me overContinue reading “6. Tired of the Rejection: A Cry from the Heart”
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27. When Did Children Become the Parents? Reclaiming Our Authority
When did children become the ones calling the shots? When did we, as parents, lose our power to command our homes? I’ll tell you when. It was when we started prioritising the wants of our children over their actual needs. It happened when we became so obsessed with protecting their feelings that we forgot toContinue reading “27. When Did Children Become the Parents? Reclaiming Our Authority”
26. Rebuilding After the Pandemic: A Parent’s Struggle to Find Normal.
We’ve been told to return to our lives as we once knew them, to accept the changes we’ve faced, and to brace ourselves for even more. Or, we’re told to prepare for a near lockdown again. That’s easy for others to say. The last 18 months have been hell. I’ve had teenagers cooped up inContinue reading “26. Rebuilding After the Pandemic: A Parent’s Struggle to Find Normal.”
23. When the Ones You Love Cause You the Most Pain.
As a parent, your life revolves around creating a safe haven for your loved ones. But what happens when the people closest to you, your teens, who believe they’re fully grown, start influencing their siblings with their erratic behavior? The pain of rejection from those you would die for is the deepest cut. How canContinue reading “23. When the Ones You Love Cause You the Most Pain.”
22. The Year That Changed Us: Grief in the Time of Lockdown.
The Year That Changed Us: Grief in the Time of Lockdown This was a truly horrible year (2020). I’ve lost acquaintances, friends, and close family but the most painful, unexpected loss has been my children. Not in the physical sense, but emotionally.The connection, the closeness, the ease of our bond it’s all changed. Our family,Continue reading “22. The Year That Changed Us: Grief in the Time of Lockdown.”
16. More Than Mum: Reclaiming Me
Who I am isn’t defined by my name or ageWhat matters most is that I am a mother of two daughters.I work, not because I love to, but because I have to sustain my life and theirs.There is no time for play, no space for joy that isn’t filtered through responsibility.Most of my days areContinue reading “16. More Than Mum: Reclaiming Me”
14. Boundary Lines and Blurred Realities: Who Are We Really Protecting?
“A line imposed not to be crossed or pushed against.”That’s how we often define a boundary—a clear rule, a firm expectation. But here’s the irony I’ve come to realise:The ones who shout loudest about boundaries are often the very ones who can’t seem to stay within them. As parents, teachers, and so-called “grown-ups,” we drawContinue reading “14. Boundary Lines and Blurred Realities: Who Are We Really Protecting?”
12. When Doing the Right Thing Still Feels Wrong.
It’s easy to say, “Do the right thing.”But what actually is the right thing?Who gets to decide that—A judge?The police?Your parents?Your friends?Or you? Today I came to a difficult but important realisation:I don’t actually know what the “right thing” is.Not really. Because every time I think I’ve found it, something else appears—another path, another voice,Continue reading “12. When Doing the Right Thing Still Feels Wrong.”
10. Liberties to be changed
Why are children so thoughtless. My daughter need to go out yet the pants she wants, are dirty and the washing is all complete. So what to do: Option 1. Do without the pants Option 2 hand wash the pants Option 3 Use the washing machine No she washes the one pair of pants inContinue reading “10. Liberties to be changed”
7. Finding the Balance: Parenting Without a Manual.
Teacher, nurse, coach, correctional officer, mentor, support worker, driver, cook…The roles we take on as parents are endless. And as our kids grow, the roles don’t disappear—they just shift in weight and intensity. But how do you know if you’re getting the balance right?There’s no manual. No guidebook. No helpline to call. And just whenContinue reading “7. Finding the Balance: Parenting Without a Manual.”
Real Talk: Diary of a Seriously Fcked Off Parent 